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Dr. Fred Hui

Helping People Achieve Balance in Life

How to Deal with Losses

LifeLine 11-How to Deal with Losses (Click this link for more details)

Loss or impending loss is a common cause of depression or stress. Losses can be in the area ‘of health,wealth, possessions or ,relationships. The perspective of many Eastern philosophies is helpful in learning how to deal with ‘the loss and get back to normal life.

THE PROBLEM
For many people, a large amount of emotional energy attached
to winning (friends, money, jobs), that the same degree of
emotions is inevitably attached to the opposite, that of losing.

THE SOLUTION
In times of loss, the following ideas may be helpful:
• For every loss there is something gained: Experiences, realizations, new opportunities.
• Nothing can be permanent: Beauty, health, jobs, political power. Expect the unexpected.
• You never truly own something, you are merely assigned to take care of it. If you never owned it, how can you have lost it?
• Life as a whole or each period of life (e.g. your school years) has many similarities to dreams. When you were in it, you swore that it was real, but once the period has passed, it vanishes, no longer touchable.

Whatever you are securely holding on to may be gone when you wake up.